Serving - Recharging Emotionally

Recharging Emotionally

When your emotional tank is empty, you're unable to love others unselfishly. You just give up. You may have a sense of being overwhelmed and feeling inadequate. You may even get angry at the ones you love the most. You may try to avoid people or view them as problems. You have no desire to love. 

To love others you have to keep your emotional tank full. When it gets low, it's going to make a difference in your relationships.

The Bible has three suggestions for recharging emotionally: 

Solitude--"There were so many people coming and going that Jesus and his disciples didn't even have time to eat. So he said to them, “Let us go off by ourselves to some place where we will be alone and you can rest for a while.”" (Mark 6:31 GNB) You need time alone. Today's verse teaches us Jesus frequently withdrew from crowds when he needed to recharge himself emotionally. In this case there was so much hustle and bustle, Jesus says to the disciples, "Come apart for a while." (KJV) You either come apart or you will come apart. 

Recreation--One of my favorite verses is, "Jesus came enjoying life." (Matthew 11:19 Phillips) He was the most intensive, ministry-oriented person who ever lived, but he enjoyed life. When you're giving to others, it costs and exhausts. You need play time. For you it may be hobbies, a sport, a craft, or games. Experiment and find out what it is that recharges you emotionally, then make time for it. 

Laughter - "Being cheerful keeps you healthy." (Proverbs 17:22 TEV) There are studies that prove that when you laugh it increases the number of T-cells - and that raises your immunity level. It produces endorphins in your brain. Laughter is a load lightener, an emotional recharger and a love rebuilder.

Rick Warren's Daily Devotional

Gentle letdowns and encouragement

Nice try
Try again
Better luck next time
Don't give up
If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.
Keep going
You can do it

Encouragement
Keep going/
Don't give up/
You can do it!
(You’re) nearly there/
almost there/
getting there/
getting warmer/
getting closer
(You’re) getting better
(This/ that is/ was) much better than last time/ last week/ yesterday
Next time we’ll do it perfectly!
(That was a) nice try/ attempt
Don't be shy/
No need to be shy/
Don’t hold back
No one in the other class managed that/ to finish either
Try again (after looking in your books for 30 seconds/ at the beginning of the next lesson/ after I
give you this hint)
Don't worry about your pronunciation/ how long it takes/ your spelling/ neatness
There's no need to rush/
There's no hurry/
We have plenty of time
Good try, but not quite right/
 Not quite right. Try again/
Do you want to try again? /
Have another go
You were almost right/
That's almost it/
You've almost got it. Try again
You're halfway there/
You're on the right lines. Try changing the…
Go on. Have a try/
Have a go/ Have a guess
If you don’t know, just guess
Numbers 1 to 7 and 9 are correct. See if you can correct the others.
(That is) nearly/ almost (right/ perfect/ finished)
90% right/ finished. I’ll give you two minutes to finish/ correct the rest
The drawing is great, now try working on the text (a bit more)
Only one mistake
Third time lucky!/ Last try!


Consoling/ commiserating/ being positive about negative feedback
That’s a shame/
That’s a pity.
Better luck next time
I’m sure you’ll do it/
I’m sure you’ll manage next time
Never mind. (You won the game last week, remember?)
You did very well (but there were more people in their team/ Juan just knew all the answers)
 Not quite what I was looking for
That’s good English but it has another meaning
Not exactly
I understand what you mean, but we don’t say that in English
You can't say that, I'm afraid/ (That’s a good word/ Well remembered, but) you can't use that word
here

What is biblical love ?

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a
(English Standard Version)
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. (ESV)

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a
(New King James Version)
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. (NKJV)

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a
(King James Version)
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth. (KJV)

The qualities of christian love.

This love is a clear proof of regeneration, and is a touchstone of our professed faith in Christ. Here follows a description of love. Descriptions of positive characteristics and negations of evil qualities are now employed by the Apostle Paul in what he would have us believe to be his impossible task of adequately describing true love(Ellicott's Commentary for English Readers).

Love Is Patient

This kind of patient love bears with offenses and is slow to repay or punish those who offend. However, it does not imply indifference, which would ignore an offense. Patient love is often used to describe God (2 Peter 3:9).

Love Is Kind

Kindness is similar to patience but refers to how we treat others. It especially implies a love that reacts with goodness towards those who have been ill-treated. This kind of love may take the form of a gentle rebuke when careful discipline is needed.

Love Does Not Envy

This kind of love appreciates and rejoices when others are blessed with good things and does not allow jealousy and resentment to take root. This love is not displeased when others experience success.

Love Does Not Boast

The word "boast" here means "bragging without foundation." This kind of love does not exalt itself over others. It recognizes that our achievements are not based on our own abilities or worthiness.

Love Is Not Proud

This love is not overly self-confident or insubordinate to God and others. It is not characterized by a sense of self-importance or arrogance.

Love Is Not Rude

This kind of love cares about others, their customs, likes, and dislikes. It respects the concerns of others even when they are different from our own. It would never act dishonorably or disgrace another person.

Love Is Not Self-Seeking

This kind of love puts the good of others before our own good. It places God first in our lives, above our own ambitions. This love does not insist on getting its own way.

Love Is Not Easily Angered

Like the characteristic of patience, this kind of love does not rush toward anger when others do us wrong. This love does not hold a selfish concern for one's own rights.

Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs

This kind of love offers forgiveness, even when offenses are repeated many times. It is a love that doesn't keep track of every wrong thing that people do and hold it against them.

Love Does Not Delight in Evil But Rejoices With the Truth

This kind of love seeks to avoid involvement in evil and helps others steer clear of evil, too. It rejoices when loved ones live according to truth.

Love Always Protects

This kind of love will always expose the sin of others in a safe way that won't bring harm, shame, or damage, but will restore and protect.

Love Always Trusts

This love gives others the benefit of the doubt, sees the best in others, and trusts in their good intentions.

Love Always Hopes

This kind of love hopes for the best where others are concerned, knowing God is faithful to complete the work he started in us. This hope filled love encourages others to press forward in the faith.

Love Always Perseveres

This kind of love endures even through the most difficult trials.

Love Never Fails

This kind of love goes beyond the boundaries of ordinary love. It is eternal, divine, and will never cease.

(https://www.thoughtco.com/love-is-patient-love-is-kind-bible-verse-701342)

How good-natured and amiable is Christian LOVE! How excellent would Christianity appear to the world, if those who profess it were more under this Divine principle, and paid due regard to the command on which its blessed Author laid the chief stress! Let us ask whether this Divine love dwells in our hearts. Has this principle guided us into becoming behaviour to all men? Are we willing to lay aside selfish objects and aims? Here is a call to watchfulness, diligence, and prayer.

100 Ways to Praise a Child

100 Ways to Praise a Child


Praising
Nice work!
Great stuff (everybody/ team A/ this group/ Maria)
(You did a) good job
great job
You (all) did very well
(Very) well done (all the girls/ teams that have already finished)
Perfect/ (A)
perfect score/
No mistakes!/
You didn’t make any mistakes (at all)/
You didn't make a single mistake.
Ten out of ten/ 100%
It’s a (class) record!/
That’s the best this year/ this term/ this week/ today
That’s better than (all) my other classes
That was (at least/ more than/ about) twice as good as your last attempt
Give yourself/ yourselves a pat on the back
Let me shake your hand!/
Give me five!
This team was the fastest, this team was the neatest, and this team wrote the most. Well done
(everybody)!
(That is/ was) (really/ absolutely) excellent/
fantastic/
fabulous/
great/
superb
(That's) (so/ very/ really) good!
Not (too) bad (at all)
That's right! /
Exactly!/
That’s (exactly) the correct answer!
Give him a big hand! / Give her a round of applause/
I think that is worth a round of applause/
Put your hands together for…
Congratulations
Bravo!
Hooray!
(You) got it first time!/
You did it on your first attempt!
You (finally) did it!
(You finished) just in time!
I’m impressed/ That’s (very/ really)
impressive
You’ve been a great help/
I couldn’t have done it without you
O.K, I’ll accept that (as an answer)
That's a (very) good/ great/ original/ imaginative suggestion/ idea!
I like that (very much)!
I like this one best/
This one’s my favourite (because…)
That's (a) nice drawing/ story/ ending/ handwriting
That’s very neat/ imaginative/ carefully done/ long/ accurate/ intelligent/ creative
(That is/ was) marvellous/ magnificent/ terrific/ fabulous/ superb/ fantastic
Wow (that was quick)!
I’ll give that a gold star
100/ 1000/ 10000/ a million points for that
I’ll put this up on the wall
(You are) the winner/ the champion(s)! / You have won the game!
(That’s a) good/ great question
You have made a lot of/ good/ excellent progress.
That's more like it /
That's much better/
That's a lot better
You've improved (your grammar/ accuracy/ fluency/ pronunciation) a lot
Alex Case for UsingEnglish.com © 2010

Hey, I love you
Way to go
Super
You're special
Outstanding
Excellent
You are fun
You're a real trooper
You're on target
Outstanding performence
Great
Looking good
You brighten my day
Good
Well done
Remarkable
I knew you could do it
Nice work
What an imagination
I'm proud of you
Super star
Fantastic
You're on top of it
You're catching on
Now you've got it
How smart
Good job
You are the clever one
You are just delightful
That's incredible
Remarkable job
You're beaufitul
You're a winner
You make me happy
Dynamite
Hip, Hip Horray
You're important
Magniicent
Beautiful
Super job
You're the best
You're on your way
How nice
You're Spectacular
You are a Darling
Beautifyl work
Good for you
Nothing can top you now
You're fantasitc
Wow
You're a legend
Great Discovery
You've discovered the secret
Fantasstic job
You're a champion
Awesome
You're precious
Marvellous
You are responsible
Terrific
You are exciting
You're growing up
You tried hard
Neat
You figured it out
You're unique
What a good listener
You;re a treasure
Super work
You mean a lot to me
You're a good friend
You deserve a big hug
You are an absolute gem
You're incredible
I like you
Now you're flying
I respect you
You're sensational
Phenomenal
Hooray for you
You care
Creative job
You belong
You made my day
You are nice to be with
You mean the world to me
You're important
You've got a friend
You're a joy
You make me laugh
You're A-OK
You're my buddy
I trust you
You're perfect
Bravo
You're wonderful
A big kiss
Exceptional performance
That's correct
Hey, I love you

Remember that a HUG is worth 1000 words